Getting To Know More About Al-Anon
A family of support groups for people who have been affected by alcoholism in their family is Al-Anon. The goal of theses groups is to be advantageous and therapeutic.
Many alcoholics have overcome this condition thanks to the help they get from Al-Anon which is a support group that started in 1951. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Al-Anon is an organization self-supported through member donations. There are meetings available through the assistance of family members and friends of alcoholics to cope with and better serve the interests of their loved ones even if they are in different stages of recovery.
To assist members by having them understand they aren't alone in their struggle, is the principal target of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Being A Family Illness
Al-Anon recognizes that alcoholism affects everyone in the family not just the addicted member. The recovery process is a joint effort and the family members and other people close to the addict must be involved.
Sometimes alcoholics' family members blame themselves for their loved one's' drinking habits; they also may not fully understand why recovery should be their relative's priority. These problems are handled by meetings and members are assisted to understand alcoholism as a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Meetings For Teenagers
Al-Anon is also home for a group which is identified as Alateen and is catering to youngsters that are affected by alcoholism within their family.
Teens get to associate with each other and share experiences of how alcoholism has affected them.
The Benefits Of Attending An Al-Anon Group
Members of Al-Anon benefit from being introduced to a number of people and families who could have suffered from the problem of alcoholism. All members have worked through some issues though the details may differ. With this program, you get to share experiences with people who have faced situations similar to yours. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Phone us on 0800 246 1509 , and we'll help you find the one near you.
Expectations For A Meeting
For anyone who is affected by someone else's drinking, Al- Anon meetings are for those. Al-Anon can assist you if you are anxious about someone's drinking habit or if their lifestyle affects you personally.
The outcomes of these meetings is what scares some people from coming. Certain things to remember when considering attending a meeting:
- Al-Anon is anonymous, which is highly essential
- Every member from the organization has been affected by alcoholism regardless of whether it is a personal problem or through a family member
- No one is subject to talk about or discuss their issue, but it is encouraged
- The Meetings Usually Vary
- You may find some more beneficial to you than others.
- This group is not affiliated to any religion
- The 12 recovery steps are followed in this group
Al-Anon meetings are carried out under a slogan that encourages all attendees to "take only what they like, leaving the rest." The members get to go about their own personal experiences.
The 12 Parts Of Al-Anon
Usually, meetings start with someone reading from the 12 step program. These 12 steps have been adapted from a similar program which is also implemented by Alcoholics Anonymous. Al-Anon members start with a sponsor who assists them work through the steps and who is ready for help in times of difficulty, mostly similar to AA. The steps are as follows:
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- This is the point where alcoholism recognised as a conditioner that has affected them all.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Members often drive themselves to the brink in an attempt to change or control their loved one.
- After admitting that they are powerless they begin to understand the fact that they can be brought back to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Accepting the condition and seeking help is the best way of solving it.
- Carry out a thorough and undaunted moral inventory of ourselves.
- A huge part of the steps are self-discovery, and this is the beginning of the procedure.
- The members make a list of things they did or said to themselves and their loved ones that are painful or harmful.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Then follows going through the list one item at a time and dealing with each.
- Got fully ready to have God eliminate all the flaws of character.
- This step is highly essential as it is the complete acceptance of the recovery process supported by a Higher Power.
- Humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings.
- This part of the 12 steps provides members with the assistance needed to understand how they may have been exercising control or being judgmental towards an addict and how these actions are counterproductive.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed and be willing to make amends with them.
- Very often, righting a wrong starts with yourself.
- Lots of people tend to blame themselves for addiction of their significant others.
- They must learn to forgive and make it right for themselves.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- It takes some period before you can complete the stages.
- There is also a possibility for relapse when trying to recover in the program.
- Step 10 provides a recognition that this is an ongoing process.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This is a personal, spiritual step that involves acceptance and comfort amongst the anxiety of recovery.
- Having experienced a spiritual awakening thanks to these steps, we tried to spread the word to other people, and to always practice these principles.
- Step 12 involves the member acknowledging the story has not ended.
- It is a support group and members get to assist other members get through the whole process.
Recognising The Higher Power
Members of Al-Anon believe there is a "higher power' greater than themselves even though the group is not affiliated with any religion. The term "higher power" is, however, open to interpretation according to the personal beliefs of individuals. Members of all religions and beliefs are accepted at Al-Anon and none is coerced to change their beliefs.